so, it’s Canadian Thanksgiving today, and basically it has been all weekend, with a couple of family dinners to go to, lots of good food to eat, and lots of visiting.  i have, however, had a few moments to think about what i am thankful for this year, reflecting on the last twelve months.

the biggest joy is my husband.  the “surrogacy thing” was our hugest challenge to date in the last 11 years we have known each other, and i am so grateful for how well we came out the other side of this experience.  i have to say, we are even stronger than before.  i am more confident in his love for me, and mine for him.  i hate to wax corny, but we truly have that kind of love that you don’t always find these days, that kind where 11 years later, through thick and thin and lots of challenges, we still hold hands, make funny faces and noises at each other, call each other ridiculous pet names, and enjoy each others’ company nearly constantly.  the “surrogacy thing” did not change that about us, didn’t create uncomfortable conversations or moments of silent thought that we don’t want to share.  we are ok, we made it, we are still happy and in love.

i am grateful for him and for us, we are enough!

happy Canadian Thanksgiving to everyone.

About namaskarambaby

We are a BC couple who are about to start the process of having a baby using a gestational surrogate in India. We would like to share the process, so the steps will be clearly laid out for other couples who would like to know about this journey, as they may be in a similar situation. We also will likely stay anonymous, as this is a bit of a private process, and we are so early on in the process, that we aren't even sure it's going to work. "Namaskaram" is a greeting in Hindi (the official language of India), which is appropriate for people of all ages... I guess it's similar to Namaste, which is commonly used in the yoga community. This is our first blog, so bear with us. Stay tuned.

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  1. sweet 🙂 The surrogacy thing is just an experience like going to a new restaurant, some people came out belly full and super happy, others may have a different experience. At the end, it shouldn’t change a couple’s dynamic.

    • That is true, but it’s very hard I think, to be “unsuccessful” with something you want really badly as a couple. I can imagine that in some cases, the strain can build resentments that some may not be able to recover from, or at least not easily… So, as I reflect, I am happy this was not the case for us, and don’t want to take our strength for granted. I hope that all couples who read the blog make sure they are ready for any outcome, and build their strength before they start.

      • Yeah, I read from a blog in which the couple got some BFNs, and it was so stressful. By the time they got a BFP, they already separated. The twins came early, needed a lot of NICU and treatments, and mommy didn’t budget something like this. Total nightmare!
        We choose to spend our life with someone because he is a good friend, a good partner, a good team mate, not because he is a good sperm donor. Adding a kid can be fun and joyful, but it is optional.

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